Unbound – Finding Freedom From Grief

Every day the world moves faster and faster.  And every day we struggle to catch up to its pace.  Our lives are filled with giant to do lists and so much work.  Monday Morning greets many with giant anxieties and stress.  This is why Cafecito Break Podcast airs LIVE every Monday Morning at 11am est.  
At Cafecito Break we believe you deserve a break from the madness of the world.  Grab a cup of coffee and listen to LIVE, FEEL GOOD, METAPHYSICAL conversations that feed the soul, inspire, and empower.

We invite you to listen to our latest episode below… UNBOUND, Finding Freedom from Grief with Special Guest Khadijah Moon Ali-Coleman.  Cafecito Break is hosted by Rosangel Perez and Ruthie Guten

Love is a battlefield…


IF LOVE IS SO IMPORTANT, why do we get it so wrong?

This is a question, I have been exploring all of my life… and every day, I learn new things from the men and women I come into contact with at work, in my classes, and within my circles of trust…

I witness often the imbalance of relationships… one person may be giving too much, the other might be leaning back… one person may be abusive, the other person might be a doormat, one person may be manipulative, and the other person may not give a fuck… Yet day after day… many people stay in relationships, whether it is with a romantic partner, a friend, or a family member for FEAR…

What kind of fear? There are many…

This is why I’m calling this show, Love is a Battlefield…

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Thank you for listening…  RA


What do you love at this moment?


I decided to share the entry below because I have spoken to so many people who find themselves in a home situation that is not the ideal.  I wanted to share that I myself have had my own journeys and challenges with finding myself  “homeless” and then functionally homeless in 2012.  

If you are wondering what functionally homeless is… it means that you do not have your own home, but someone is giving, providing, or sharing their shelter with you.  

May my journal entry below provide some insight and inspiration   Life is filled with up and downs.  Just remember, your sentence isn’t over…. 

Location – somewhere in NYC   Date – Summer 2012

Yesterday was one of those days… again. 

What was surfacing was anger. Mostly anger at myself for allowing and creating the current situation I find myself in.

Finding a home hasn’t been as easy as I thought. In this money hungry society, everything is over priced and most realtors are only interested in dealing with you if you have a steady income.

I only have myself to blame for being up in the air like this.

I have been feeling so lost.

I know intuitively that this is part of the process of letting go, of finding myself, of releasing ego, and embracing the gifts this moment really has to offer me.

After an entire day of anger and feeling sorry for myself, I closed out my evening in silence.

What do you love about this moment?”, my inner being asked me.

As tired as I was I knew I needed to do something different to change the the vibration I had been immersed in all day.

I listened to a ten minute video of Alan Watts. In this talk, he illustrates how the past is changed by how we perceive the present moment.

“We must abandon completely the notion of blaming the past for any kind of situation we’re in and reverse our thinking and see that the past always flows back from the present. That now is the creative point of life. So you see its like the idea of forgiving somebody, you change the meaning of the past by doing that…Also watch the flow of music. The melody as its expressed is changed by notes that come later. Just as the meaning of a sentence…you wait till later to find out what the sentence means…The present is always changing the past.”

My sentence isn’t over…

Here it is… My list.
What do you love about this moment?

My body
That I can breathe
The mastery of love
My crystals
My beloved
My family
my friends
My dogs
My bed
My pillow
My laptop
My sheets
My blankets
My cel phone
My altar
My veil
My goddess hanging
My plants
My chuunky
My oracle cards
My incense
My candles
My rattle
My water
Jesus and Mary
My lion stuffed animal
The air conditioner
My nightlight
The alchemist
My runes
My guides
My ancestors
This home
My freedom
My abundance

Now its your turn…
What does your list look like? What the first thing that comes to mind?  See if it helps shift your mood. The lighter you feel, the faster you can attract those blessings you seek.

Thank you for allowing me to share.

Many blessings and prosperity to you, to me, to all of us.

ra lil wolf perez


TV News Fear Porn

We are addicted 

To the drama

To the story

That keeps on repeating

Over and over and over

And then we repeat the story, to others, to our neighbors, to ourselves.

And this creates more fear.

This creates more anxiety.

This robs us of joy.

Why can’t they share good news too? Why is every story worse than the next?

What are they telling you?

Are you seeing real evidence?

Or a made up story?

Are they really giving you facts?

Or are they telling you a story that is convenient for some and not the majority.

What rights will be taken away from us now?

What will be added?

Step back.  See the whole picture

Notice the trends.

Is mainstream media our friend?

Is this government propaganda?

Why keep the masses in fear?

Because….  (Fill in the blank)

Who? What? Why?

Ask more questions.

Feel with your heart.

But please don’t accept just one version of a story.

Dance Your Dream

If I can’t dance, I don’t want to be a part of your revolution.” – Emma Goldman

What does a Pastor, a Curator of Music, and a Shamanic Movement Coach have in common?  They are co-creating a “Dance Your Dream Party” with the intention of buidling bridges, creating an inviting ALL ARE WELCOMED unified space, and providing a safe place to dance in the segregated, gentrified, and sometimes unwelcoming neighborhood of Williamsburg, Brooklyn.

This morning on CAFECITO BREAK PODCAST, we talked to Pastor Ben McKelahan and Music Curator Gavin Russom about what inspired the DANCE YOUR DREAM project and what we hope it will become.

Listen HERE…. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/cafecitobreak/2015/11/30/cafecito-break–dance-your-dream

Our intention is to host these parties on a monthly basis…  Our next party is Sunday, December 20th, 2015 – 3pm – 6pm.

See the flyer below for more details.



The Rev. Ben Mckelahan – is an interactive artist, fairy tale writer, and Lutheran Pastor. Since he stumbled upon Lutheranism and Theatre of the Oppressed, Ben has been fascinated with how to use art and games to create a community that embodies God’s unconditional love. Ben serves as the pastor of St. Paul’s Lutheran Church.

Gavin Russon – is a sound, visual, and music artist, originally from Providence, Rhode Island, he currently lives in New York City. He has also spent a significant amount of time based in Berlin which he considers his second home. From an early age, he became interested in experimenting with sound, image and movement and investigating the territory where the boundaries between them blur. Not surprisingly, his career has straddled many worlds and scenes. Looking beneath genre and the shifting landscape of stylistic trends, Russom’s focus is really the vital energy present in all earthly things and the ecstatic nature of reality.

EMAIL – contact@cafecitobreak.com

Feeling like Scrooge on Thanksgiving…

It is 9:41am.  I have been up since 6am… Why? to force myself to a ginger/honey/lemon tea concoction for my flu..  I’ve been home for a week coughing, feeling hot and then cold, having a hard time breathing and feeling extremely fatigued…  I feel restless, unsettled, and darn right cranky…

Its like a test from the UNIVERSE!!!

What do you do now Rosangel?  

My first thought is… I have to be real with how I’m feeling.  And as I type these words I hear a voice screaming inside my head… “I feel like SHIT!!!, I’m cranky, I am uncomfortable… boo boo boo boo boo bah hum bug….”

And this voice wants to continue singing/screaming the same old “Cranky Pants” song… and why not?  it is not like I am lying, this is my truth right now… I FEEL LIKE CRAP… :-/

BUT my HIGHER VOICE tunes in… and she says… “You know what to do…” 


Yes… this is true.. I do know what I can do… I can take small steps right now to feel better.

This morning I listened to an inspirational chat by Gabrielle Bernstein called “Awakening Your Authentic Power” and I also did a tuning fork sound healing on myself and I am feeling a shift… but  one of the most profound ways I can feel better is by opening the door to gratitude… 

Let me show you…

“Dear body, I am grateful for your beautiful intelligence… for showing me this week that I have been moving too fast and doing too much and that I needed to give you rest.   I am grateful for my thoughts, for the time to be able to think, contemplate, rest, rest, rest, and rest.  I am grateful for the challenge of pausing… Dear body you know me well… you know I’m a restless bird and I move around so much that I lose sight of when I am pushing my body too hard.  I am grateful for the perfect reason to take a break from the world and the mundane and the over stimulating lifestyle of the city. I am grateful to be able to listen deeply to you and my/your true needs.   I am grateful for the insight that I need more special time for me and my creative endeavors.  And even though it has been a tough week on my body, I  am grateful I have had a creative burst that I haven’t felt in a while.  I am grateful to have experienced this again because it is what truly makes me happy.  It is like coming home again.  Thank you body for your infinite intelligence   Please forgive me for running you too hard… You are not a machine.  You are an instrument of divinity and my intention is to hold you sacred.  I love you.  Thank you.”

Immediately, I can feel a difference. I feel lighter and more content and I’m actually smiling.  Yes!!!

Gratitude and Gentleness for me.

Happy Thanksgiving…

May you have a beautiful magical heartfelt day!

Join us on “The Gratitude Movement” on Facebook, which I founded in 2009.  It is a mastermind of love, kindness, and appreciation. We celebrate 29 Days of Gratitude events.  All are welcomed ;-)

From a recent article published in the New York Times called, “Choose to be Grateful. It will Make You Happier”

“This is not just self-improvement hokum. For example, researchers in one 2003 study randomly assigned one group of study participants to keep a short weekly list of the things they were grateful for, while other groups listed hassles or neutral events. Ten weeks later, the first group enjoyed significantly greater life satisfaction than the others. Other studies have shown the same pattern and lead to the same conclusion. If you want a truly happy holiday, choose to keep the “thanks” in Thanksgiving, whether you feel like it or not.” Arthur C Brook

Choose to Be Grateful. It Will Make You Happier.

The Night Before Thanksgiving…

The night before Thanksgiving always reminds me of a warm kitchen filled with lots of food and festive energy.  I have memories of my mom preparing the turkey and the ham.  My dad bugging her for taste tests, and my sister and I getting ready to watch  “A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving.”

I remember how much I looked forward to Thanksgiving night.  It was tradition on this evening to begin playing old Christmas favorites.  A warm fuzzy feeling would come over me as I anxiously anticipated the family parties and gatherings with friends.  My absolute favorites were the “parrandas” which is a Puerto Rican version of Christmas caroling with a few twists…

 A parranda is when a small group of friends gathers together to “asaltar” or surprise another friend.  Most parranderos play some sort of instrument, either guitarras, tamboriles, güiro maracas, or palitos. And they all sing.    

The parranderos arrive at the destination and then very quietly gather by the front door. At a signal all start playing their instruments and singing. The parrandas usually begin after 10pm in order to surprise and wake the sleeping friend. The parranderos are invited in and refreshments, music and dance follow. Of course we don’t surprise unsuspecting victims. The parranderos are given plenty of “hints” before hand by the homeowner that he is ready to receive a parranda.    


The party goes on for an hour or two then everyone, including the owners of the house, leave to parrandear some more. The group grows as they offer their parranda at several houses during that night. At the last house probably around 3 or 4 in the morning the homeowner offers the traditional chicken soup or asopao de pollo. The party is over at dawn.” (excerpt extracted from http://www.elboricua.com/pr_christmas.html)

Our family participated in a Urban version of this tradition…  

Ahh, those days were so sweet.  I get teary eyed just thinking about them. My daddy is now in heaven and oh these holidays aren’t the same without him...
I invite you to listen to the video below… even if you don’t understand the words, allow yourself to feel the joy…It’s a melody of some of my favorite songs.  :)

Click the link below…

May you continue to build wonderful memories with your loved ones.

Happy  a blessed Thanksgiving!
love, light, y bendiciones,

Rosangel Perez